"Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough..." - Brené Brown
RESCUING YOUR PRISONERS OF WAR
You would do very well to consider those lost parts I keep mentioning as Prisoner's Of War, because they are, truly, prisoners of this war between good and evil. That is exactly what they are, evil is trying to take on as many prisoners, as many hostages, as it can, before the end. And that war for your soul, is done right here, right now, part by part. It has never ended. Michael the Archangel brought Lucifer and his team down here, with us, remember!? That war is not finished, not yet, and there is a lot of collateral damage accumulating in the background.
And yes, there is always pain involved, sacrifices, to rescue those prisoners of war, you need to face their/your fears, trauma, you need to relive what they have been stuck in. For them, time stops when they get stuck in those places, like being sexually abused in childhood or bullied, part of you "checks out", not able to stay in the present, and keep cycling around those never-ending experiences. They become your prisoners of war, and believe me, that is what evil wants, that is why evil does that, not for the fun of the abuse. The "human" part of your abuser can do it for that, for the pleasure, but the evil part of them, is done on purpose to steal parts of the soul, both of the abuser, and the victim, both lose.
And for both victims and abusers, which in a way, we all are, shame and guilt are major factors of dissociation for those parts that get fractured off, and keeping them dissociated from our present, away from life and love. Yes, shame is a very powerful emotion, which greatly affects both the abuser and the abused, and locks both in a very devastating trauma bonded relationship. Making us feel so bad about ourselves, that dying in agony, keeping our secrets, often seems like a better option than talking about what we have done, or what has been done to us. And that is truly sad, because I know that a lot of people are stuck like that, most of us to some extent.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance..." - Oscar Wilde
In any kind of rescue operation, especially the most difficult ones, there will always be compromises to consider, and accept. In trauma, in abusive relationships, people's ability to compromise in a healthy way is greatly reduced, almost to zero. The abuser demands everything, and the abused always accepts very little, or nothing, in return. That is the rotten foundation of a narcissistic relationship, the narcissist as someone who demands the world in the highest entitled state, while giving away crumbs and expecting people to be forever grateful for them. People who have a great disability to compromise in a loving and caring way, will not be able to grow into love, will also fail at life, and fail in their relationships, in all that they do, anything meaningful at least.
It is in this growth process that true transformation can happen, diving into that pain, with purpose and strength, accepting what you find, forgiving, letting go, sending love in those wounds as the most soothing balm that was ever created, and welcoming those hurt, pain filled parts back into your present self. And accepting what they have endured, accepting the sabotage they might have caused you, accepting their imperfections, and promising yourself that you will never surrender back to the old habits that caused them to remain in those dark and lonely places.
Another lesson that was very painful to learn, and why I needed to become my own labor of love before I could be there for others in a healthy way. And that is what this is also, a labor of love, that I am trying to pass on.
"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it..." - Albert Einstein
Evil is always, looking to win soul parts, they compel people to do the most atrocious things that those people are willing to do, to others or to themselves, over and over, for the purpose of winning those soul parts, prisoners of war. One part of your psyche after the other, the more they do that, the more they control the abuser, and the victim, as for evil, all of us are victims, even the abusers and narcissists. So keep in mind that evil is always looking for people willing to compromise more than they should, it is a hallmark of narcissists as they do compromise a lot to be who they are also. And why they often target people already abused, and willing to relent on their boundaries. Which is why testing boundaries is the main, and often the first, tool narcissists use.
It can seem like a fun game to play, testing boundaries with one another, who is the best, who is the smartest, who is able to hold their ground the most, who is the most cunning. But it is a very wicked game to play, one in which the loser might surrender to becoming the victim of the narcissist, and will lose all of their greatest assets in the process; love, joy, gratitude, compassion, togetherness, sense of self, identity, authenticity, even their dreams... Stay away from people who cannot compromise fairly, and learn what that looks like, feels like. The same with people always making excuses, playing dumb, entitled, confusing common sense, and those hardly ever taking responsibility for their actions or words. These are different methods for compelling other people to compromise, instead of them.
Learn how to stand up for yourself, don't remain silent when witnessing abuse, or you will become a victim of evil and narcissists. This world is harsh, and it does not tolerate not so innocent bystanders, nor does God, you are with him, or not... And that is advice worth more than anything you can take to the bank!
Anyone who is willing to play the game, or willing to accept getting pulled into it, or unwitting people, like children, forced into it, can easily get lost in the backwash. Most of the damage is done in childhood, abusers and victims are mainly created before the age of about 7, when most of our programming is set. So we need to figure out better strategies to overcome these dreadful mental and emotional illnesses. I truly believe that the only way we could turn the tides, is to force parents-to-be to take tests, make certain they are able to have children and offer a safe, and abuse free, home. And if they aren't, then they can't have children until they improve their score, that is the only responsible path to a greater society!
"Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph..." - Haile Selassie
The more you have pieces of you stuck in your subconscious, the more you are living in the past (and future), and the less you are living in the present. Which also means, any plans for your future will be very short sighted and prone to not get you very far, and the more you will be prone to accept abusive situations, even if you don't see them as abusive, and the further you will be from self love. Consider again the idea of a woman who accepts being beaten in a relationship, which is something many of us can understand, she often does not have the capacity to see how abusive it is because she is now numb to the abuse. Yes, even some of the worst types of abuse, people can sort of feel it, know it with their minds, but we can only process a fraction of it with our hearts because our hearts shut down most of the pain. So we also don't truly understand the improvements that non-abusive relationships can bring to us.
We do that all the time, except for most people, we become blind to less abusive situations, and lack the perspective to see it for what it is, including reviewing your childhood with a better lens. I spent decades of my adult life thinking that my childhood was "good enough" precisely because my capacity to understand what abuse truly was, was very low, like many people. There is much more to developing self-love than feeling good about yourself, it is to give you a new lease on life, a new perspective on "evil", news "glasses" to see your whole timeline with truth and openness, as you have never seen it before.
"Continually trying to look on the bright side interferes with our finding the wisdom that lies in the fruitful darkness..." - Stephen Buhner
Essentially, you need to prove to those lost parts that you will be there for them in all the ways other people were not in the past, and also make amends for all the years that have gone by, and your relationship with them was not mended. You need to build trust with them, compassion, empathy, love, understanding, to listen to their pain with an open heart, to develop healthy bonds, build strong boundaries for them to know that you will protect them from further pain.
So, consider the idea of rescuing your prisoners of war, and going towards wholeness, as an example of you finding out a part that has been lopped off in childhood for whatever abusive situation, and that part lingered there until now. So today, your job is to find that part, which is the main process of " The One Meditation" technique I developed, and very related to inner child work, and internal family systems. And when you do, you need to embody that part in your present being, and of course, you need to feel all of the pain that part still holds, and hold on to the pain until the hurt is gone. If you do not have enough strength, or courage, to hold on to it long enough, it will sink back into darkness, into hell and torment. Some of those parts, when the pain runs so deep, cannot be done in one try. That is okay, don't get all frustrated with it, it might take 4 or 5 times, maybe even more for the worst of them. At least try, heal some of them, and don't give up the fight!
"But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust..." - Jesus Christ
Keep in mind that these lost parts in your subconscious, as some call the shadow, will always sabotage your plans, in one way or another. Either they will try to get your attention when you don't want to give them any, try to steer you away from trouble, or steer you right into it! And when I say steer you away from trouble, this sounds good on the surface, but because they steered you away from what you wanted to do that was not good for you, it can make you feel out of control, and you might avoid the better path and become stubborn about going there.
Whichever they think will get you to wake up, and bring your attention to them. Because as long as they exist outside of the present, they will always suffer, even if you repress the suffering, seek distractions, drugs or alcohol. You might be able to quiet them, but they will never go away, they can't, and your life will always be incomplete, without meaning and purpose, as long as too many of them are stuck in those dark places. All of those parts can have value and purpose, but they need to be healed, loved, understood, and re-integrated into your present self, before you can access their strength and gifts. These parts will always rule over your life in ways that are very difficult to understand, but generally not in a healthy way, even though at times, it might look that way.
In those dark places are locked your potential for greatness, bringing home your prisoners of war is key to your highest achievements, and higher self. You will never find meaning to your life unless you find your purpose, and you will never get to your true purpose if you don't even know who you are, and you can never know who you truly are, until you reconcile enough of those parts hiding in the shadows, burdened with suffering and waiting for you to develop enough love to not only rescue them, but reconcile their relationship to you. And never forget God, never forget that there is still a spiritual war of good versus evil, and evil gets more powerful with all of those lost parts, and evil will work against you, to prevent you from being successful on this journey.
And remember that the most selfish, and caring, thing you can ever do, is also the most selfless thing; to develop self-love. True self love, unconditional love, the kind of love that comes from going through your pain, your fears, healing, and becoming emotionally and spiritually mature, while aiming for a greater cause, helping others... That is what can build a rock solid, and loving, place for all of us to live in.
You would do very well to consider those lost parts I keep mentioning as Prisoner's Of War, because they are, truly, prisoners of this war between good and evil. That is exactly what they are, evil is trying to take on as many prisoners, as many hostages, as it can, before the end. And that war for your soul, is done right here, right now, part by part. It has never ended. Michael the Archangel brought Lucifer and his team down here, with us, remember!? That war is not finished, not yet, and there is a lot of collateral damage accumulating in the background.
And yes, there is always pain involved, sacrifices, to rescue those prisoners of war, you need to face their/your fears, trauma, you need to relive what they have been stuck in. For them, time stops when they get stuck in those places, like being sexually abused in childhood or bullied, part of you "checks out", not able to stay in the present, and keep cycling around those never-ending experiences. They become your prisoners of war, and believe me, that is what evil wants, that is why evil does that, not for the fun of the abuse. The "human" part of your abuser can do it for that, for the pleasure, but the evil part of them, is done on purpose to steal parts of the soul, both of the abuser, and the victim, both lose.
And for both victims and abusers, which in a way, we all are, shame and guilt are major factors of dissociation for those parts that get fractured off, and keeping them dissociated from our present, away from life and love. Yes, shame is a very powerful emotion, which greatly affects both the abuser and the abused, and locks both in a very devastating trauma bonded relationship. Making us feel so bad about ourselves, that dying in agony, keeping our secrets, often seems like a better option than talking about what we have done, or what has been done to us. And that is truly sad, because I know that a lot of people are stuck like that, most of us to some extent.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance..." - Oscar Wilde
In any kind of rescue operation, especially the most difficult ones, there will always be compromises to consider, and accept. In trauma, in abusive relationships, people's ability to compromise in a healthy way is greatly reduced, almost to zero. The abuser demands everything, and the abused always accepts very little, or nothing, in return. That is the rotten foundation of a narcissistic relationship, the narcissist as someone who demands the world in the highest entitled state, while giving away crumbs and expecting people to be forever grateful for them. People who have a great disability to compromise in a loving and caring way, will not be able to grow into love, will also fail at life, and fail in their relationships, in all that they do, anything meaningful at least.
It is in this growth process that true transformation can happen, diving into that pain, with purpose and strength, accepting what you find, forgiving, letting go, sending love in those wounds as the most soothing balm that was ever created, and welcoming those hurt, pain filled parts back into your present self. And accepting what they have endured, accepting the sabotage they might have caused you, accepting their imperfections, and promising yourself that you will never surrender back to the old habits that caused them to remain in those dark and lonely places.
Another lesson that was very painful to learn, and why I needed to become my own labor of love before I could be there for others in a healthy way. And that is what this is also, a labor of love, that I am trying to pass on.
"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it..." - Albert Einstein
Evil is always, looking to win soul parts, they compel people to do the most atrocious things that those people are willing to do, to others or to themselves, over and over, for the purpose of winning those soul parts, prisoners of war. One part of your psyche after the other, the more they do that, the more they control the abuser, and the victim, as for evil, all of us are victims, even the abusers and narcissists. So keep in mind that evil is always looking for people willing to compromise more than they should, it is a hallmark of narcissists as they do compromise a lot to be who they are also. And why they often target people already abused, and willing to relent on their boundaries. Which is why testing boundaries is the main, and often the first, tool narcissists use.
It can seem like a fun game to play, testing boundaries with one another, who is the best, who is the smartest, who is able to hold their ground the most, who is the most cunning. But it is a very wicked game to play, one in which the loser might surrender to becoming the victim of the narcissist, and will lose all of their greatest assets in the process; love, joy, gratitude, compassion, togetherness, sense of self, identity, authenticity, even their dreams... Stay away from people who cannot compromise fairly, and learn what that looks like, feels like. The same with people always making excuses, playing dumb, entitled, confusing common sense, and those hardly ever taking responsibility for their actions or words. These are different methods for compelling other people to compromise, instead of them.
Learn how to stand up for yourself, don't remain silent when witnessing abuse, or you will become a victim of evil and narcissists. This world is harsh, and it does not tolerate not so innocent bystanders, nor does God, you are with him, or not... And that is advice worth more than anything you can take to the bank!
Anyone who is willing to play the game, or willing to accept getting pulled into it, or unwitting people, like children, forced into it, can easily get lost in the backwash. Most of the damage is done in childhood, abusers and victims are mainly created before the age of about 7, when most of our programming is set. So we need to figure out better strategies to overcome these dreadful mental and emotional illnesses. I truly believe that the only way we could turn the tides, is to force parents-to-be to take tests, make certain they are able to have children and offer a safe, and abuse free, home. And if they aren't, then they can't have children until they improve their score, that is the only responsible path to a greater society!
"Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph..." - Haile Selassie
The more you have pieces of you stuck in your subconscious, the more you are living in the past (and future), and the less you are living in the present. Which also means, any plans for your future will be very short sighted and prone to not get you very far, and the more you will be prone to accept abusive situations, even if you don't see them as abusive, and the further you will be from self love. Consider again the idea of a woman who accepts being beaten in a relationship, which is something many of us can understand, she often does not have the capacity to see how abusive it is because she is now numb to the abuse. Yes, even some of the worst types of abuse, people can sort of feel it, know it with their minds, but we can only process a fraction of it with our hearts because our hearts shut down most of the pain. So we also don't truly understand the improvements that non-abusive relationships can bring to us.
We do that all the time, except for most people, we become blind to less abusive situations, and lack the perspective to see it for what it is, including reviewing your childhood with a better lens. I spent decades of my adult life thinking that my childhood was "good enough" precisely because my capacity to understand what abuse truly was, was very low, like many people. There is much more to developing self-love than feeling good about yourself, it is to give you a new lease on life, a new perspective on "evil", news "glasses" to see your whole timeline with truth and openness, as you have never seen it before.
"Continually trying to look on the bright side interferes with our finding the wisdom that lies in the fruitful darkness..." - Stephen Buhner
Essentially, you need to prove to those lost parts that you will be there for them in all the ways other people were not in the past, and also make amends for all the years that have gone by, and your relationship with them was not mended. You need to build trust with them, compassion, empathy, love, understanding, to listen to their pain with an open heart, to develop healthy bonds, build strong boundaries for them to know that you will protect them from further pain.
So, consider the idea of rescuing your prisoners of war, and going towards wholeness, as an example of you finding out a part that has been lopped off in childhood for whatever abusive situation, and that part lingered there until now. So today, your job is to find that part, which is the main process of " The One Meditation" technique I developed, and very related to inner child work, and internal family systems. And when you do, you need to embody that part in your present being, and of course, you need to feel all of the pain that part still holds, and hold on to the pain until the hurt is gone. If you do not have enough strength, or courage, to hold on to it long enough, it will sink back into darkness, into hell and torment. Some of those parts, when the pain runs so deep, cannot be done in one try. That is okay, don't get all frustrated with it, it might take 4 or 5 times, maybe even more for the worst of them. At least try, heal some of them, and don't give up the fight!
"But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust..." - Jesus Christ
Keep in mind that these lost parts in your subconscious, as some call the shadow, will always sabotage your plans, in one way or another. Either they will try to get your attention when you don't want to give them any, try to steer you away from trouble, or steer you right into it! And when I say steer you away from trouble, this sounds good on the surface, but because they steered you away from what you wanted to do that was not good for you, it can make you feel out of control, and you might avoid the better path and become stubborn about going there.
Whichever they think will get you to wake up, and bring your attention to them. Because as long as they exist outside of the present, they will always suffer, even if you repress the suffering, seek distractions, drugs or alcohol. You might be able to quiet them, but they will never go away, they can't, and your life will always be incomplete, without meaning and purpose, as long as too many of them are stuck in those dark places. All of those parts can have value and purpose, but they need to be healed, loved, understood, and re-integrated into your present self, before you can access their strength and gifts. These parts will always rule over your life in ways that are very difficult to understand, but generally not in a healthy way, even though at times, it might look that way.
In those dark places are locked your potential for greatness, bringing home your prisoners of war is key to your highest achievements, and higher self. You will never find meaning to your life unless you find your purpose, and you will never get to your true purpose if you don't even know who you are, and you can never know who you truly are, until you reconcile enough of those parts hiding in the shadows, burdened with suffering and waiting for you to develop enough love to not only rescue them, but reconcile their relationship to you. And never forget God, never forget that there is still a spiritual war of good versus evil, and evil gets more powerful with all of those lost parts, and evil will work against you, to prevent you from being successful on this journey.
And remember that the most selfish, and caring, thing you can ever do, is also the most selfless thing; to develop self-love. True self love, unconditional love, the kind of love that comes from going through your pain, your fears, healing, and becoming emotionally and spiritually mature, while aiming for a greater cause, helping others... That is what can build a rock solid, and loving, place for all of us to live in.
"Walking. I am listening to a deeper way. Suddenly all my ancestors are behind me. Be still, they say. Watch and listen. You are the result of the love of thousands..." - Linda Hogan
THE ONLY PATH TO A LIFE OF MEANING AND PURPOSE, FOR ALL OF US
Do everything that you can to heal, to overcome any wounds or trauma, and develop such a relationship with yourself that you feel purposeful in what you do. And this purpose must be something that is beneficial for you and the people you are helping, meaning, contributing the the wellbeing of the collective, what you are personally contributing. If not, then relent to following someone else's path, someone who is dedicated to contributing to the wellbeing of the collective, in a proven manner. Working for an NGO that spends the majority of its funds simply existing, and barely scratches the surface in their proven contributions to society, is not enough. This is the only path towards true meaning in your life, purpose can only come from doing something that improves the future of humanity. The feelings of unconditional love, purpose, meaning, come from the soul, and the soul knows if its future gets improved, or not, by what you do.
Remember, your soul is eternal, it knows if its future is bright, or dark and in jeopardy, that is also how God knows if a society has passed the point of no return, or getting close to it. It is a feeling that is very easy for him to understand and interpret. He knows any changes, if they contribute to the betterment of a civilization, or the worsening of it. You also have that capacity, in what you do, not for how much it contributes to your bank account, or your personal wellbeing, but to the collective. Your soul knows the difference, we all know the difference. And right now, more and more people are giving up on humanity, we are no longer accepting the path we are on, or in our ability to steer our ship back towards a good future. We are losing hope "en masse", and this place is breaking at the seams...
Do everything that you can to heal, to overcome any wounds or trauma, and develop such a relationship with yourself that you feel purposeful in what you do. And this purpose must be something that is beneficial for you and the people you are helping, meaning, contributing the the wellbeing of the collective, what you are personally contributing. If not, then relent to following someone else's path, someone who is dedicated to contributing to the wellbeing of the collective, in a proven manner. Working for an NGO that spends the majority of its funds simply existing, and barely scratches the surface in their proven contributions to society, is not enough. This is the only path towards true meaning in your life, purpose can only come from doing something that improves the future of humanity. The feelings of unconditional love, purpose, meaning, come from the soul, and the soul knows if its future gets improved, or not, by what you do.
Remember, your soul is eternal, it knows if its future is bright, or dark and in jeopardy, that is also how God knows if a society has passed the point of no return, or getting close to it. It is a feeling that is very easy for him to understand and interpret. He knows any changes, if they contribute to the betterment of a civilization, or the worsening of it. You also have that capacity, in what you do, not for how much it contributes to your bank account, or your personal wellbeing, but to the collective. Your soul knows the difference, we all know the difference. And right now, more and more people are giving up on humanity, we are no longer accepting the path we are on, or in our ability to steer our ship back towards a good future. We are losing hope "en masse", and this place is breaking at the seams...
TEMPORARY ALLOWANCES
It is okay to allow yourself to get angry, vent out frustrations, blame, stomp around, maybe even say things that's on your mind even if they might cause someone else some pain. But keep in mind, it is only temporary, and especially for people who have had a tendency to repress their emotions, who have allowed themselves to become victims of narcissists. And be prepared to ask for forgiveness if you feel it is necessary. Maybe some of those people, are narcissists and abusers you need to get away from and giving them a piece of your mind is not only deserving, but can give you a good wake up call for their reaction. Maybe they are good friends that might experience some collateral damage, so keep it minimal, and learn from people's reactions. If they are understanding, if they choose to hurt back, or if they run away at the slightest hint of trouble. Mature people will tolerate a little, in a healthy way, but will put a stop to it if you continue. Unhealthy people will either retaliate, hold grudges, run away, or shut down. If you find yourself reading this, you most likely have issues to deal with, and many emotionally unwell people in your surroundings. Keep your eyes and ears open, and think about the people whom you feel you simply can't see yourself acting out your feelings around, they might be some of the main people you need to review your relationship with.
People who have anger issues, then maybe it should be the opposite. Those who have a long habit of saying all sorts of hurtful things, they should listen for a while instead of giving themselves yet another permission to vent out their anger. Not to repress their anger for a long period, but understand it and heal whatever it is that holds anger inside of them. Play it out, react, break something, but, not at someone, and while doing active therapy, not just to explode in someone's face. There are many different types of therapies that include the whole body in the healing process, not just the mind, and it is to those types of therapies that many people should go to, instead of just talk therapy, or in addition of. Proper healing is a whole body experience, lots of energy blockages are stored into it, not just in the mind. And those stuck energies in the body need to be loosened up somehow, activated in a healthy enough way, and let go of with peace and love, and again, a lot of forgiveness.
It is okay to allow yourself to get angry, vent out frustrations, blame, stomp around, maybe even say things that's on your mind even if they might cause someone else some pain. But keep in mind, it is only temporary, and especially for people who have had a tendency to repress their emotions, who have allowed themselves to become victims of narcissists. And be prepared to ask for forgiveness if you feel it is necessary. Maybe some of those people, are narcissists and abusers you need to get away from and giving them a piece of your mind is not only deserving, but can give you a good wake up call for their reaction. Maybe they are good friends that might experience some collateral damage, so keep it minimal, and learn from people's reactions. If they are understanding, if they choose to hurt back, or if they run away at the slightest hint of trouble. Mature people will tolerate a little, in a healthy way, but will put a stop to it if you continue. Unhealthy people will either retaliate, hold grudges, run away, or shut down. If you find yourself reading this, you most likely have issues to deal with, and many emotionally unwell people in your surroundings. Keep your eyes and ears open, and think about the people whom you feel you simply can't see yourself acting out your feelings around, they might be some of the main people you need to review your relationship with.
People who have anger issues, then maybe it should be the opposite. Those who have a long habit of saying all sorts of hurtful things, they should listen for a while instead of giving themselves yet another permission to vent out their anger. Not to repress their anger for a long period, but understand it and heal whatever it is that holds anger inside of them. Play it out, react, break something, but, not at someone, and while doing active therapy, not just to explode in someone's face. There are many different types of therapies that include the whole body in the healing process, not just the mind, and it is to those types of therapies that many people should go to, instead of just talk therapy, or in addition of. Proper healing is a whole body experience, lots of energy blockages are stored into it, not just in the mind. And those stuck energies in the body need to be loosened up somehow, activated in a healthy enough way, and let go of with peace and love, and again, a lot of forgiveness.
A NOTE ON GROUNDING, AND TEMPORARY PRESENCE
These lost soul parts, not to say that they are completely in the darkness as long as you don't rescue them. It is possible to bring them into your present moment, by doing grounding activities, having fun in a healthy way, dancing, exercise, yoga, meditation, good conversations with people who have a fair amount of presence and ability to process healthy emotions...
And it in those moments of extra grounding of those energies, extra levels of presence, that you can heal them, convince them to stick around, without all the hoopla of doing "official" healing activities or therapy. It is in a life well lived, well balanced, that the most, and less painful, healing can happen. And doing healthy, fun, purposeful activities on a regular basis, is how you can maintain the gains you have acquired through healing and overcoming of your history of wounds and suffering, the bitterness of what has been lost, and to keep your hopes up.
Healing is not all about 10 day silent meditation retreats, psychologists, and psychedelic assisted therapy or around the world finding oneself journeys. Those things can help to compensate for the many years people often let pass before attending to their soul and purpose, but at some point, you let this new life of joy and love take over.
So, finding balance between things that heal your soul, and things that nourish your soul on a continual basis, is important, otherwise all work and no play, will keep you vulnerable to drifting back into bad habits and darkness, and losing the precious work you have earned and achieved.
These lost soul parts, not to say that they are completely in the darkness as long as you don't rescue them. It is possible to bring them into your present moment, by doing grounding activities, having fun in a healthy way, dancing, exercise, yoga, meditation, good conversations with people who have a fair amount of presence and ability to process healthy emotions...
And it in those moments of extra grounding of those energies, extra levels of presence, that you can heal them, convince them to stick around, without all the hoopla of doing "official" healing activities or therapy. It is in a life well lived, well balanced, that the most, and less painful, healing can happen. And doing healthy, fun, purposeful activities on a regular basis, is how you can maintain the gains you have acquired through healing and overcoming of your history of wounds and suffering, the bitterness of what has been lost, and to keep your hopes up.
Healing is not all about 10 day silent meditation retreats, psychologists, and psychedelic assisted therapy or around the world finding oneself journeys. Those things can help to compensate for the many years people often let pass before attending to their soul and purpose, but at some point, you let this new life of joy and love take over.
So, finding balance between things that heal your soul, and things that nourish your soul on a continual basis, is important, otherwise all work and no play, will keep you vulnerable to drifting back into bad habits and darkness, and losing the precious work you have earned and achieved.
EQUATING DREAM WORK TO MARTIAL ARTS
Think about martial arts, and the colored belts you earn as you practice and learn your lessons. Your teacher knows where you are at, what you need help on, what you know enough, and what you need to improve upon. That is his/her job, to teach, and to watch. Your teacher always has eyes on you and everyone else, and they know what to look for. So when you earn that extra stripe, or a new belt, you can see where you are at, what you accomplished, and others see it too. In dreams, it is a very similar process. God, and the beings you encounter, see where you are at very easily, just as anyone looking at you with your martial arts belt.
And you can also gage your own progress by the situations you have encountered, and overcome. If you have a recurring nightmare of someone chasing you that has lasted for ten years, then you start doing dream work, and suddenly you grow the courage to stop running, and turn around instead, that is how you know you have grown spiritually. And you can apply this to all sorts of other situations and dreams. Like becoming more lucid, more aware that you are dreaming. When you decide to stop flying away, and instead remain grounded and seek to explore your surroundings, on foot, instead of flying off. When the dream symbols become more clear, when your dream recall improves, when you grow the ability to read things in dreams, when before you could not. When the complexity and details of your dreams grow, and you can absorb more of what surrounds you. When the colors become more vivid, when the overall feeling you have in dreams improves, when you stop fighting dream animals, or stop being chased by them, and instead befriend them.
Those are the spiritual stripes you earn, and they will get you noticed by all of the spiritual beings that are there to help. They will stop giving you the same old lessons, and provide better ones, to keep improving. Just as a martial arts teacher provides higher lessons to his/her highest students, while never completely forgetting the basics. I have earned many such stripes through dream/spiritual work, and yes, they can be literal stripes in a sense, spiritual markers you earn on your spiritual being, kind of like tattoos. Once you earn them, those lessons have been properly incorporated, they earn you respect, and also serve as a guard against certain forms of evil. So you become "untouchable" to some of the demons in the spiritual world, a little bit at a time. Just like earning a new martial arts belt separates you from the ones below you, so do your spiritual stripes.
You might think that I am saying some pretty wild things, but hell is a heck of a lot more wild than I can put into words. And so is heaven/the world above way better than I can express. I have seen things that I know my mind cannot invent, there is no imagination in the world that can explain what I have experienced, and keep experiencing. I am trying hard to explain things very difficult to explain, I may not be "spot on", but it's a pretty good description to rely on, and make progress with!
Another way of understanding why dream work is important, and how you can benefit from it:
When we are awake, we are a mix of many of our parts, all trying to co-exist as a whole, some repressed, some aching for attention, some running off in fears, all sorts of conflicting desires, very un-authentic... But when we sleep, when we dream, we can embody some parts at a time, one, or a few combined. So we can have a much greater chance at healing those parts, understanding them, and overcoming their suffering, towards integration. So we are much more real to ourselves in dreams, even though we often only experience parts of us at a time, those parts have truths that we can access in an easier manner than when we are awake. You can't do that in normal therapy sessions, but can have some success when doing psychedelic therapy and/or meditation, or other dynamic forms of healing and therapies.
Think about martial arts, and the colored belts you earn as you practice and learn your lessons. Your teacher knows where you are at, what you need help on, what you know enough, and what you need to improve upon. That is his/her job, to teach, and to watch. Your teacher always has eyes on you and everyone else, and they know what to look for. So when you earn that extra stripe, or a new belt, you can see where you are at, what you accomplished, and others see it too. In dreams, it is a very similar process. God, and the beings you encounter, see where you are at very easily, just as anyone looking at you with your martial arts belt.
And you can also gage your own progress by the situations you have encountered, and overcome. If you have a recurring nightmare of someone chasing you that has lasted for ten years, then you start doing dream work, and suddenly you grow the courage to stop running, and turn around instead, that is how you know you have grown spiritually. And you can apply this to all sorts of other situations and dreams. Like becoming more lucid, more aware that you are dreaming. When you decide to stop flying away, and instead remain grounded and seek to explore your surroundings, on foot, instead of flying off. When the dream symbols become more clear, when your dream recall improves, when you grow the ability to read things in dreams, when before you could not. When the complexity and details of your dreams grow, and you can absorb more of what surrounds you. When the colors become more vivid, when the overall feeling you have in dreams improves, when you stop fighting dream animals, or stop being chased by them, and instead befriend them.
Those are the spiritual stripes you earn, and they will get you noticed by all of the spiritual beings that are there to help. They will stop giving you the same old lessons, and provide better ones, to keep improving. Just as a martial arts teacher provides higher lessons to his/her highest students, while never completely forgetting the basics. I have earned many such stripes through dream/spiritual work, and yes, they can be literal stripes in a sense, spiritual markers you earn on your spiritual being, kind of like tattoos. Once you earn them, those lessons have been properly incorporated, they earn you respect, and also serve as a guard against certain forms of evil. So you become "untouchable" to some of the demons in the spiritual world, a little bit at a time. Just like earning a new martial arts belt separates you from the ones below you, so do your spiritual stripes.
You might think that I am saying some pretty wild things, but hell is a heck of a lot more wild than I can put into words. And so is heaven/the world above way better than I can express. I have seen things that I know my mind cannot invent, there is no imagination in the world that can explain what I have experienced, and keep experiencing. I am trying hard to explain things very difficult to explain, I may not be "spot on", but it's a pretty good description to rely on, and make progress with!
Another way of understanding why dream work is important, and how you can benefit from it:
When we are awake, we are a mix of many of our parts, all trying to co-exist as a whole, some repressed, some aching for attention, some running off in fears, all sorts of conflicting desires, very un-authentic... But when we sleep, when we dream, we can embody some parts at a time, one, or a few combined. So we can have a much greater chance at healing those parts, understanding them, and overcoming their suffering, towards integration. So we are much more real to ourselves in dreams, even though we often only experience parts of us at a time, those parts have truths that we can access in an easier manner than when we are awake. You can't do that in normal therapy sessions, but can have some success when doing psychedelic therapy and/or meditation, or other dynamic forms of healing and therapies.