"Narcissists are consumed with maintaining a shallow false self to others. They're emotionally crippled souls that are addicted to attention. Because of this they use a multitude of games, in order to receive adoration. Sadly, they are the most ungodly of God's creations because they don't show remorse for their actions, take steps to make amends or have empathy for others. They are morally bankrupt...” - Shannon L. Alder
THE HOSTAGE TAKING PROCESS OF NARCISSISTS
Yes, that's exactly what they do, they accumulate those lost soul parts one at a time, prisoners of war, by creating conflict, turmoil, they distract and they plunder, making people fight against themselves. Then keep their victims under their spell so that they don't do anything to rescue those parts back, because that is where they get their power from. So they are indeed friends of the devil as they employ the same tricks, and seek the same results; the destruction of souls, of love, keeping people far away from God, and stuck in hell, with them.
Our soul is not won over by the devil in one go as you see in movies, someone signing their soul away with one piece of paper. No, our soul is won over piece by piece, part by part, and has many owners, even if the devil ultimately collects all the spoils of war. So, any interaction with a narcissist, any negotiation, is like dealing with a terrorist, it is always a losing proposition. They will never relinquish what they have taken away from you, they will never atone, and they will never accept to rebalance the scale. And trying to take it away by force, will make things worse as you will most likely need to become a bigger narcissist than them, a better friend to the devil.
"Over and over again, I have learned how damaging, how unrelenting, the aftermath is from these pathological, quietly undermining relationships..." - Sandra Brown
That is why many psychologists and therapists urge people to walk away from narcissists when they find one, accept the losses, and heal on their own. Not with narcissists, not through them, as they will always try to find a way to defeat any progress you make. Expecting them to change is a self defeating prospect, and worse, they might convince you that they have changed, but they will only make their abuse harder to detect, and make healing from it much harder also. And at some point you might give up altogether and forever remain their victim, besties for "life", in hell, in torment and suffering. But even that will end, as hell will get destroyed when this place gets reset.
Maybe narcissists embody the fallen ones, those that were cast out of Heaven for rebelling against God, and are trying to rebuild their army by recruiting as many victims as they can? We are still at war, good versus evil, it is still playing out. Be on the lookout for anyone that is trying to recruit you to be on the side of evil, with or against your will, narcissists being the worst of them.
So, I apologize to narcissists, in a way, as it most likely isn't a pleasant thing to think of oneself as a devil's minion. But, look at yourself in the mirror and think about the pain you are causing to those around you. Hopefully this will make you stop, accept, and seek help, because you are ruining the experience for everyone by your insistence to not see the carnage as it is, or face what you have become. Maybe the only thing that is worse than the madness of a narcissist, is realizing how much you've been manipulated and controlled by their childish antics and hurtful tricks.
"The narcissist would love nothing more than to know you are eating uncooked Top Ramen out of a dumpster for dinner tonight while wearing yesterdays underwear..." - Tina Swithin
This is what you get when you go against a narcissist, or hurt them in any way. They are extremely vulnerable, that is why they break people apart before getting close to them, to lessen the potential of pain, which is also why they need to have complete control over their victims. And if you dare challenge them, they will stop at nothing to destroy any sense of self you have dared to develop, and will want to see you suffer in the most inhumane ways possible. They are completely convinced that you deserve the harshest punishment for any wrongdoing towards them, and they need to make certain that you learn the lesson, and that you will never again disengage from their constructed reality. And they will turn everything that you love into sour grapes, make you afraid to trust anyone, and again, turn you into your own worst enemy. Life will lose all meaning, and when they have had enough, they might cast you out, or aim you towards suicide to have their secrets die with you, and cast blame on your madness. I believe that narcissists and sexual abusers are behind the dreaded family drama of a parent killing their children, then killing their spouse, then either running off, or committing suicide. All in the name of keeping their secrets of abuse hidden from the public.
To a narcissist, you are never presumed innocent, you are guilty of betrayal from the beginning, and that is your starting point. From there, they will always be searching for the smoking gun, keeping you on your toes, constant tests, and sooner or later, they will convict you of the highest treason, by turning you into their worst enemy. Keep in mind that your system is always geared towards the truth, to seek it at all costs, and narcissists aim you far away from it. That is why you get lost along the way, and that is the key to your recovery, once you get away from their grasp. In a way, the narcissist is someone who is holding onto a live wire, electrocuting anyone who comes near them, sapping the life force out of you, and them. And as long as they don't realize that, and let go, they will always cause themselves pain, and to those around them.
"Says the narcissist: I deserve more than anyone else, no one has suffered more than me, I have more value than anyone else, I understand things more than anyone else, one day I will finally get all the credit I deserve..."
Moving along...
To heal you must deescalate the conflict within you, between your dissociated parts, from the conflict created from narcissistic abuse, or trauma from your childhood, as narcissists aim for people who were abused in childhood, and are used to it. Narcissists are pros at escalating the conflict in everyone, that is what they do best, that is the whole purpose of gaslighting; to have someone fight to the death against their own mind, and heart, and there is no room for survivors in this war, all die eventually.
Love is all about the end of conflict and eternal life, narcissists are all about making certain that love can never be found, and perpetual torment. They aim for the annihilation of love and anything that feels like love, while replacing it by something that feels like love only to those who have lost all sense of it. That's how we are blinded into following narcissists into the deepest bowels of hell, one step at a time. Their breadcrumbs are laced with poison that causes us to see light as dark, and dark as light. And once you are down there, who else but the narcissist can you trust to navigate you in that place? And that was their goal all along, to bring you to a place where life does not make sense anymore, and only they can become your "guiding light" in a way, as only they know what that place is made of. Just like a wicked kidnapper brings his victim to a faraway cottage in the middle of nowhere, to do what he pleases, no one hearing all the screams of their victims, so a narcissists does to their victim, except that cottage is in their own minds, and it is often done in broad daylight in front of others.
"Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms..." - Elizabeth Bowen
Yes, life with a narcissist can be complicated, because as long as you play by their rules, and accept their terms of surrender, life can feel great, in a way. But only if you don't complain about the loss of freedom that comes from living on their terms. Freedom that you might not even be aware that you lost. And that is the real danger of being around a narcissist, not realizing the cost of that friendship/relationship, and not feel your soul, your freedom and love, slipping away.
"Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time. . . . Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this? Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree..." - Sam Vaknin
That is how you get owned by a narcissist, all of your thoughts, your mind, works for them, that is how they drain your power, control you, and make it extremely hard for you to walk away from them. Because your mind loses its ability to work for you, and all roads circle back around to them, until you can get your bearings straightened out. Narcissists aim on making their victims afraid of their own thoughts, so that they surrender themselves to a sort of coma, an extension of the narcissist, hypnotized and completely under their control.
Now, on the flip side, a narcissist is also a victim, a prisoner of their own mind, and until they realize that they are their own worst enemies, associated with the pain and trauma of their past, there is no rescuing a narcissist from his/her condition. Mainly because they don't accept the false self that has become the prison guard holding the keys to the prison cell, which is holding their true self as a prisoner. That prison becomes a place where everything is made of up illusions, a made up existence, and a place where they desperately try to bring friends into.
And of course, those friends/people will need to accept the narcissist's madness as their new reality, and accept to be held captive by that prison guard, a mindless being controlled by evil, a lifeless and very cruel, and conniving, creature. If that does not convince you to learn about narcissism, from others and yourself, and stay far away just as Adam and Eve should have stayed away from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Well, don't expect your Garden to include much love, or life. As even God had to expel his own son who refused to follow that rule, and, don't call me for supper either! I learned the hard way to stay away from such things, and even rehashing it brings back many unpleasant memories. I'm doing it as a sense of purpose, and to help, not because it is enjoyable, much peace to you if you connect to this...
“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose...” - Brené Brown
And replace narcissism in this quote with perfectionism, it works just as well.
And what is the narcissist most afraid of, what is it that they hide the most, and are willing to cause such destruction in our world for?
They are afraid of people finding out that they have no love to offer, afraid that if people found out, they will always leave them, afraid for people to know they are only faking love. As they are too hurt and lack the vulnerability that grows into love, so they hide the fact that they have no love to offer behind abuse and control, and invalidation. And they were most likely craving love and affection for most, if not all, of their childhood. Again, something they most likely share with the perfectionist.
“Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence...” - Sam Vaknin
Yes, fear is one of the main tools in which they victimize their prey... Another thing I received too many lessons on.
An abused person, gaslighted into darkness, expects very little from their partner, or anyone else, including themselves, so they have no idea that they are surrounded by people who lack the capacity to love, to have empathy and compassion. That's the narcissist's dirty little secret, his/her kryptonite, just as the perfectionist fears he has nothing of value to offer, so does the narcissist, makes sense, right?
Narcissists are some of the most destructive forces of life, and of love, and that's why demons use them in their attempt at destroying God's creation, and God himself, they are like open gates to hell, allowing all evil to flow out through them. Yet as bad and destructive as narcissists can get, when they are diagnosed, we do nothing about it, we leave them to decide what to do about it!? It's like giving the worst of thieves the keys to Fort Knox, and simply asking them to abide by the honor system.
I’m really thinking, narcissism, is definitely about a little broken child living in an adult body, throwing tantrums because he is not getting the love and affection he/she needs. And blames everyone around them for not providing it, without realizing that it is the narcissist that is broken, it is the narcissist that cannot receive that love and affection because he is lost in the dark corners of his subconscious, a place where the light of life cannot reach him. And the tantrums of the narcissist can become very life destroying, the more he/she thinks that the people around them are withholding love that he thinks they have, but are not sharing. Any kind of happiness, joy, kindness that the narcissist sees in others, they want it, they covet it with all of their heart, and they will turn deadly mean if it is not shared with them. From their perspective anyway, as if one can simply gift those feelings as if a piece of cake. But the narcissist is simplistic, childlike, and they see those things as that, gifts that someone possesses, toys, candy, and are not sharing.
Narcissism is nothing more than a very long, and very painful, bittersweet symphony without one note at the right place, nor the right time...
The goal of the narcissist it to knock the most amount of "you" away from the present, into hell, into the subconscious realm. That way you become their slave, as there is hardly any "you" left running your life, to make proper decisions for it, you become overly dependent on them, co-dependant. You become like a zombie more or less, the real you gets stuck in illusions and darkness, in suffering, and "you" get replaced by a false self, the same as for the narcissist. There is hardly any true self to a narcissist, the person behind the wheels of a narcissist is practically a complete fabrication, no authentic being, and to them, an authentic being is a threat, and they can't tolerate that.
An authentic being is also connected to God, and again, narcissists get empowered by evil, and evil does not tolerate any presence of God. So to a believer, narcissists are the worse threat to them, as anything of God will be hunted down, and cast aside. I will give another reminder on my use of narcissist, as a catch all term for the worst of the dark triads, or dark spectrum, and not necessarily the absolute version of the clinical term. Though the clinically diagnosed narcissist, is a pretty good description nonetheless. So yes, narcissists can be seen a little bit like sorcerers, hypnotists, keeping you under their spell with all sorts of tricks of abuse, deception, fears, stress, isolation, despair, gaslighting... They know what they do, and they can tell how much a person is hypnotized, or if the effects of their sorcery is wearing off. Then they abuse some more, to make certain the person cannot think for themselves clearly.
Narcissists hardly ever seek treatment or admit to any wrongdoing, for their crimes against humanity are not listed as crimes, unfortunately. We need to do better for our survival, to test people, highlight narcissists out of the crowd, and insist on treating them, prevent them from abusing others. The rights of people's wellbeing, the survival of our species, should come above the rights of narcissists to keep abusing those around them.
“Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism...” - Frank Salvato
And the victims of narcissists are in a similar place, afraid that they are unlovable, undeserving of love, which is why those two types of people often find themselves together. Both hide similar secrets, but go about it in different ways, to keep their secrets hidden. So of course, both benefit from remaining in the relationship, not a good benefit, but to keep people from knowing the truth, that they believe they are unlovable (similar to perfectionists), even keeping it hidden from themselves.
Who would have guessed that bitter and resentful five year old's trapped in adult bodies could be so destructive?
Go to the extremes, and the house of cards folds in on itself, et voila, all secrets are revealed!
Yes, that's exactly what they do, they accumulate those lost soul parts one at a time, prisoners of war, by creating conflict, turmoil, they distract and they plunder, making people fight against themselves. Then keep their victims under their spell so that they don't do anything to rescue those parts back, because that is where they get their power from. So they are indeed friends of the devil as they employ the same tricks, and seek the same results; the destruction of souls, of love, keeping people far away from God, and stuck in hell, with them.
Our soul is not won over by the devil in one go as you see in movies, someone signing their soul away with one piece of paper. No, our soul is won over piece by piece, part by part, and has many owners, even if the devil ultimately collects all the spoils of war. So, any interaction with a narcissist, any negotiation, is like dealing with a terrorist, it is always a losing proposition. They will never relinquish what they have taken away from you, they will never atone, and they will never accept to rebalance the scale. And trying to take it away by force, will make things worse as you will most likely need to become a bigger narcissist than them, a better friend to the devil.
"Over and over again, I have learned how damaging, how unrelenting, the aftermath is from these pathological, quietly undermining relationships..." - Sandra Brown
That is why many psychologists and therapists urge people to walk away from narcissists when they find one, accept the losses, and heal on their own. Not with narcissists, not through them, as they will always try to find a way to defeat any progress you make. Expecting them to change is a self defeating prospect, and worse, they might convince you that they have changed, but they will only make their abuse harder to detect, and make healing from it much harder also. And at some point you might give up altogether and forever remain their victim, besties for "life", in hell, in torment and suffering. But even that will end, as hell will get destroyed when this place gets reset.
Maybe narcissists embody the fallen ones, those that were cast out of Heaven for rebelling against God, and are trying to rebuild their army by recruiting as many victims as they can? We are still at war, good versus evil, it is still playing out. Be on the lookout for anyone that is trying to recruit you to be on the side of evil, with or against your will, narcissists being the worst of them.
So, I apologize to narcissists, in a way, as it most likely isn't a pleasant thing to think of oneself as a devil's minion. But, look at yourself in the mirror and think about the pain you are causing to those around you. Hopefully this will make you stop, accept, and seek help, because you are ruining the experience for everyone by your insistence to not see the carnage as it is, or face what you have become. Maybe the only thing that is worse than the madness of a narcissist, is realizing how much you've been manipulated and controlled by their childish antics and hurtful tricks.
"The narcissist would love nothing more than to know you are eating uncooked Top Ramen out of a dumpster for dinner tonight while wearing yesterdays underwear..." - Tina Swithin
This is what you get when you go against a narcissist, or hurt them in any way. They are extremely vulnerable, that is why they break people apart before getting close to them, to lessen the potential of pain, which is also why they need to have complete control over their victims. And if you dare challenge them, they will stop at nothing to destroy any sense of self you have dared to develop, and will want to see you suffer in the most inhumane ways possible. They are completely convinced that you deserve the harshest punishment for any wrongdoing towards them, and they need to make certain that you learn the lesson, and that you will never again disengage from their constructed reality. And they will turn everything that you love into sour grapes, make you afraid to trust anyone, and again, turn you into your own worst enemy. Life will lose all meaning, and when they have had enough, they might cast you out, or aim you towards suicide to have their secrets die with you, and cast blame on your madness. I believe that narcissists and sexual abusers are behind the dreaded family drama of a parent killing their children, then killing their spouse, then either running off, or committing suicide. All in the name of keeping their secrets of abuse hidden from the public.
To a narcissist, you are never presumed innocent, you are guilty of betrayal from the beginning, and that is your starting point. From there, they will always be searching for the smoking gun, keeping you on your toes, constant tests, and sooner or later, they will convict you of the highest treason, by turning you into their worst enemy. Keep in mind that your system is always geared towards the truth, to seek it at all costs, and narcissists aim you far away from it. That is why you get lost along the way, and that is the key to your recovery, once you get away from their grasp. In a way, the narcissist is someone who is holding onto a live wire, electrocuting anyone who comes near them, sapping the life force out of you, and them. And as long as they don't realize that, and let go, they will always cause themselves pain, and to those around them.
"Says the narcissist: I deserve more than anyone else, no one has suffered more than me, I have more value than anyone else, I understand things more than anyone else, one day I will finally get all the credit I deserve..."
Moving along...
To heal you must deescalate the conflict within you, between your dissociated parts, from the conflict created from narcissistic abuse, or trauma from your childhood, as narcissists aim for people who were abused in childhood, and are used to it. Narcissists are pros at escalating the conflict in everyone, that is what they do best, that is the whole purpose of gaslighting; to have someone fight to the death against their own mind, and heart, and there is no room for survivors in this war, all die eventually.
Love is all about the end of conflict and eternal life, narcissists are all about making certain that love can never be found, and perpetual torment. They aim for the annihilation of love and anything that feels like love, while replacing it by something that feels like love only to those who have lost all sense of it. That's how we are blinded into following narcissists into the deepest bowels of hell, one step at a time. Their breadcrumbs are laced with poison that causes us to see light as dark, and dark as light. And once you are down there, who else but the narcissist can you trust to navigate you in that place? And that was their goal all along, to bring you to a place where life does not make sense anymore, and only they can become your "guiding light" in a way, as only they know what that place is made of. Just like a wicked kidnapper brings his victim to a faraway cottage in the middle of nowhere, to do what he pleases, no one hearing all the screams of their victims, so a narcissists does to their victim, except that cottage is in their own minds, and it is often done in broad daylight in front of others.
"Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life in his own terms..." - Elizabeth Bowen
Yes, life with a narcissist can be complicated, because as long as you play by their rules, and accept their terms of surrender, life can feel great, in a way. But only if you don't complain about the loss of freedom that comes from living on their terms. Freedom that you might not even be aware that you lost. And that is the real danger of being around a narcissist, not realizing the cost of that friendship/relationship, and not feel your soul, your freedom and love, slipping away.
"Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time. . . . Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this? Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree..." - Sam Vaknin
That is how you get owned by a narcissist, all of your thoughts, your mind, works for them, that is how they drain your power, control you, and make it extremely hard for you to walk away from them. Because your mind loses its ability to work for you, and all roads circle back around to them, until you can get your bearings straightened out. Narcissists aim on making their victims afraid of their own thoughts, so that they surrender themselves to a sort of coma, an extension of the narcissist, hypnotized and completely under their control.
Now, on the flip side, a narcissist is also a victim, a prisoner of their own mind, and until they realize that they are their own worst enemies, associated with the pain and trauma of their past, there is no rescuing a narcissist from his/her condition. Mainly because they don't accept the false self that has become the prison guard holding the keys to the prison cell, which is holding their true self as a prisoner. That prison becomes a place where everything is made of up illusions, a made up existence, and a place where they desperately try to bring friends into.
And of course, those friends/people will need to accept the narcissist's madness as their new reality, and accept to be held captive by that prison guard, a mindless being controlled by evil, a lifeless and very cruel, and conniving, creature. If that does not convince you to learn about narcissism, from others and yourself, and stay far away just as Adam and Eve should have stayed away from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Well, don't expect your Garden to include much love, or life. As even God had to expel his own son who refused to follow that rule, and, don't call me for supper either! I learned the hard way to stay away from such things, and even rehashing it brings back many unpleasant memories. I'm doing it as a sense of purpose, and to help, not because it is enjoyable, much peace to you if you connect to this...
“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose...” - Brené Brown
And replace narcissism in this quote with perfectionism, it works just as well.
And what is the narcissist most afraid of, what is it that they hide the most, and are willing to cause such destruction in our world for?
They are afraid of people finding out that they have no love to offer, afraid that if people found out, they will always leave them, afraid for people to know they are only faking love. As they are too hurt and lack the vulnerability that grows into love, so they hide the fact that they have no love to offer behind abuse and control, and invalidation. And they were most likely craving love and affection for most, if not all, of their childhood. Again, something they most likely share with the perfectionist.
“Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence...” - Sam Vaknin
Yes, fear is one of the main tools in which they victimize their prey... Another thing I received too many lessons on.
An abused person, gaslighted into darkness, expects very little from their partner, or anyone else, including themselves, so they have no idea that they are surrounded by people who lack the capacity to love, to have empathy and compassion. That's the narcissist's dirty little secret, his/her kryptonite, just as the perfectionist fears he has nothing of value to offer, so does the narcissist, makes sense, right?
Narcissists are some of the most destructive forces of life, and of love, and that's why demons use them in their attempt at destroying God's creation, and God himself, they are like open gates to hell, allowing all evil to flow out through them. Yet as bad and destructive as narcissists can get, when they are diagnosed, we do nothing about it, we leave them to decide what to do about it!? It's like giving the worst of thieves the keys to Fort Knox, and simply asking them to abide by the honor system.
I’m really thinking, narcissism, is definitely about a little broken child living in an adult body, throwing tantrums because he is not getting the love and affection he/she needs. And blames everyone around them for not providing it, without realizing that it is the narcissist that is broken, it is the narcissist that cannot receive that love and affection because he is lost in the dark corners of his subconscious, a place where the light of life cannot reach him. And the tantrums of the narcissist can become very life destroying, the more he/she thinks that the people around them are withholding love that he thinks they have, but are not sharing. Any kind of happiness, joy, kindness that the narcissist sees in others, they want it, they covet it with all of their heart, and they will turn deadly mean if it is not shared with them. From their perspective anyway, as if one can simply gift those feelings as if a piece of cake. But the narcissist is simplistic, childlike, and they see those things as that, gifts that someone possesses, toys, candy, and are not sharing.
Narcissism is nothing more than a very long, and very painful, bittersweet symphony without one note at the right place, nor the right time...
The goal of the narcissist it to knock the most amount of "you" away from the present, into hell, into the subconscious realm. That way you become their slave, as there is hardly any "you" left running your life, to make proper decisions for it, you become overly dependent on them, co-dependant. You become like a zombie more or less, the real you gets stuck in illusions and darkness, in suffering, and "you" get replaced by a false self, the same as for the narcissist. There is hardly any true self to a narcissist, the person behind the wheels of a narcissist is practically a complete fabrication, no authentic being, and to them, an authentic being is a threat, and they can't tolerate that.
An authentic being is also connected to God, and again, narcissists get empowered by evil, and evil does not tolerate any presence of God. So to a believer, narcissists are the worse threat to them, as anything of God will be hunted down, and cast aside. I will give another reminder on my use of narcissist, as a catch all term for the worst of the dark triads, or dark spectrum, and not necessarily the absolute version of the clinical term. Though the clinically diagnosed narcissist, is a pretty good description nonetheless. So yes, narcissists can be seen a little bit like sorcerers, hypnotists, keeping you under their spell with all sorts of tricks of abuse, deception, fears, stress, isolation, despair, gaslighting... They know what they do, and they can tell how much a person is hypnotized, or if the effects of their sorcery is wearing off. Then they abuse some more, to make certain the person cannot think for themselves clearly.
Narcissists hardly ever seek treatment or admit to any wrongdoing, for their crimes against humanity are not listed as crimes, unfortunately. We need to do better for our survival, to test people, highlight narcissists out of the crowd, and insist on treating them, prevent them from abusing others. The rights of people's wellbeing, the survival of our species, should come above the rights of narcissists to keep abusing those around them.
“Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism...” - Frank Salvato
And the victims of narcissists are in a similar place, afraid that they are unlovable, undeserving of love, which is why those two types of people often find themselves together. Both hide similar secrets, but go about it in different ways, to keep their secrets hidden. So of course, both benefit from remaining in the relationship, not a good benefit, but to keep people from knowing the truth, that they believe they are unlovable (similar to perfectionists), even keeping it hidden from themselves.
Who would have guessed that bitter and resentful five year old's trapped in adult bodies could be so destructive?
Go to the extremes, and the house of cards folds in on itself, et voila, all secrets are revealed!
A CAVEAT ON NARCISSISTS, EVIL, AND THE DEVIL: During the time that abusers engage in abusive things, even thoughts, they are indeed working for evil, for the devil. But, that does not make them all evil, narcissists included. It just means that for those periods of time, including keeping victims of abuse under their spell which is quite horrific, so for that time, they are indeed mortgaging their resources, their soul, to evil, so, stop it!
No one is beyond redemption, but some have accumulated such spiritual debt, that they need to stop right now, and start paying back what they have taken and destroyed, before it's too late. God kicked out his own son from the Garden of Eden, from his home, for engaging in evil, no one gets a free pass. Not Adam or Eve, not the all glorious and bright shining Lucifer and his followers, nor you, or I. We are the ones creating hell from all the "evil", or non-loving, things we engage in, so we need to own up to it and change our ways, before things can get better.
And don't think that narcissists appear "devilish", they can be super fun to be around, on the surface, very smart and entertaining, attractive, successful, or at times covert, appearing sweet and innocent. It is very hard to tell, which is why it is important to know the red flags, before you get yourself deep into their made up world.
No one is beyond redemption, but some have accumulated such spiritual debt, that they need to stop right now, and start paying back what they have taken and destroyed, before it's too late. God kicked out his own son from the Garden of Eden, from his home, for engaging in evil, no one gets a free pass. Not Adam or Eve, not the all glorious and bright shining Lucifer and his followers, nor you, or I. We are the ones creating hell from all the "evil", or non-loving, things we engage in, so we need to own up to it and change our ways, before things can get better.
And don't think that narcissists appear "devilish", they can be super fun to be around, on the surface, very smart and entertaining, attractive, successful, or at times covert, appearing sweet and innocent. It is very hard to tell, which is why it is important to know the red flags, before you get yourself deep into their made up world.